Gosh I don't know what else I wrote. I forgot to save them.
I woke up at 2:00 am after I had a weird dream. Now I am in CCC listening to Class 95 Singapore.
Oh yeah, definition of happiness:
Happiness is simply the ability to not want more; to find gratitude and satisfaction in the moment that you have right now.
In other words, your happiness hinges on living in the moment instead of yearning for some future indicator of success.
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It’s like Aristotle said over 2,000 years ago, “Happiness is the meaning and the purpose of life, the whole aim and end of human existence.” Being happy is the ultimate goal; it’s what we’re all after.
“When we are happy – when our mindset and mood are positive – we are smarter, more motivated, and thus more successful. Happiness is the center, and success revolves around it.”
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The hedonic treadmill, also known as hedonic adaptation, is the observed tendency of humans to quickly return to a relatively stable level of happiness despite major positive or negative events or life changes.https://www.njlifehacks.com/negative-visualization-antidote-to-hedonic-adaptation/
1. We have a broken happiness formula.
Great work might lead to bigger success, but it won’t make us happy. It will only lead to new goals and push happiness further away. Instead, we need to be happy first. If we seek happiness through success and material possessions, we’ll end up in the vicious hedonic cycle.
Focus on being happy.
Be => Do => YOU <= Have
We need to be happy first.
We desire something, work hard to earn it, and once we have it we’ll adapt and be as dissatisfied as before. And then we’ll desire something else, or simply more of it, work hard to get it, and again, once we have it we’ll adapt quickly, our joy will fade away and we’ll start at zero all over again.
2. We get caught up in the vicious hedonic cycle.
We adapt to bigger successes and fancier lifestyles quickly and will seek more and more to satisfy our desires. We need to break that cycle by appreciating what we already have.
In most cases we don't need it but we JUSTIFY the purchase and acted as if it was rational. In reality our mind rationalized the decision as something necessary.
Note: How is this possible? Two days ago I was dealing with Marcus Aurelius and the idea of Stoicism. Today through the gateway of Hedonic Adaptation I am led to the door that leads to the 10 Stoic Core Principles; something that will take me weeks of reading Marcus Aurelius and Seneca before I can get to the core.
https://www.njlifehacks.com/what-is-stoicism-overview-definition-10-stoic-principles/
https://www.njlifehacks.com/stoic-negative-visualization-become-mentally-stronger/
I think there is such a thing as God after all and this force is guiding me on my Path.
Tonight I become a believer:
- From the majority is wrong;
- I came across Marcus Aurelius
- Then I thought of happiness as the ultimate goal
- With that I came across hedonic adaptation
- Then I am led to the 10 Stoic Core Principles
This is my proof that my path is straight.
- The main issues are weight and inflammation
- That need to be addressed by diet and exercise
- Once I address that I will be thin and fast
- I then will be healthy and happy
- The X Factor is THE ABILITY TO WITHSTAND HUNGER
By consciously thinking about the loss of what we have, we can regain our appreciation of it. We can regain the joy about something, and we’ll remember why we desired that exact thing some time ago. We wouldn’t take everything for granted anymore.
With this simple exercise we can regain our appreciation for our spouse, our joy for our car, and our value for the place we live in.
Negative visualization lets us embrace whatever life we’re living and extract every bit of delight from it.
It becomes more important what we make of what we have than what we have in the first place.
The goal is basically to want what we already have. We need to desire the things we happen to have in our lives. If we desire what we have, we want nothing else, and we’re happy.
Simple in theory, right?
Get this statement from one of the greatest soccer players of all time, Zinédine Zidane:
“I once cried because I had no shoes to play football with my friends, but one day I saw a man who had no feet, and I realized how rich I was.”
What we have might not be that bad.
3. We stop the cycle by thinking negatively.
Negative visualization can break the vicious hedonic cycle. By consciously thinking about the loss of what we have we get to embrace what we have. We learn to want what we already have and regain our appreciation for those things.
We learn to be happy first.Note: Gratitude - Be grateful.
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“Stoicism teaches how to keep a calm and rational mind no matter what happens to you and it helps you understand and focus on what you can control and not worry about and accept what you can't control.”
https://www.njlifehacks.com/what-is-stoicism-overview-definition-10-stoic-principles/
#1 Live in Agreement with Nature – The Stoic Goal of Life
#2 Live by Virtue – It Is the Highest of All Goods
#3 Focus on What You Can Control, Accept What You Can’t
#4 Distinguish Between Good, Bad, and (‘Preferred’) Indifferent Things
#5 Take Action – The True Philosopher Is a Warrior of the Mind
#6 Practice Misfortune – Ask “What Could Go Wrong?”
#7 Add a Reserve Clause to Your Planned Actions
#8 Amor Fati – Love Everything that Happens
#9 Turn Obstacles into Opportunities – Perception Is Key
#10 Be Mindful – Stoic Mindfulness Is Where it All Begins
Stoicism makes us focus on what we control
Stoicism makes us responsible for our own lives
Stoicism offers guidance and meaning to life
I am a natural Stoic.
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Must read:
Happy people simply engage in more happiness-boosting behaviors and thinking patterns than unhappy people. For example, happy people devote a great amount of time to their family and friends, exercise regularly, commit to life-long goals, and practice optimistic and grateful thinking.
I decide to be happy. To do that all I need is the ABILITY TO WITHHOLD HUNGER.
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