Basically it is confirmed that Els is operating from a child ego state. Therefore operating from the adult ego state I can choose to reinforce the situation with either a nurturing parent ego state or as another playful child.
I think I had broken the ice by using dad jokes and by building rapport through having similarities with her interests.
I am not much a nurturing parent. However I added the nurturing element by offering her unconditional love and overflowing love.
She responded well to C-C complimentary relationship.
What about me? Why am I so attracted to her?
I like her because she is a playful child and a happy child. When she is temperamental and defensive, she is no fun to be with. Therefore the objective is to keep her happy and cheerful.
Although her response was positive to me, her reaction was pretty adult. So I should reinforce the spontaneity by being playful and funny.
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